Trauma

Aware

Parenting

Live

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Learn How to Break the Cycle NOT  Your Kids

 

Welcome to our PILOT PROGRAM, Trauma Aware Parenting! We are super excited you found us. Celeste and Aurora, your facilitators, both grew up in very traumatic households. They have spent years unpacking this trauma in an effort to NOT break their children and UNBREAK any collateral damage their own childhood trauma caused their children. This course is designed for parents who have lived through Childhood Trauma and are now parents themselves. This course is designed for parents who want to break the cycle and NOT their kids!

This course is NOT for any parent that makes excuses for their behavior. This course is NOT for anyone that is unwilling to own their behavior. This course is NOT for any parent in DENIAL. This course is NOT for any parent unwilling to DO THE WORK.

As parents, we want the best for our kids, but when we have our own issues with trauma, it can be challenging to be the parents we want to be, as old scripts and our own fear and anxiety prevent us from creating the safe space and connected relationships that we dream of.

Aurora’s specialty is Grief Recovery and Celeste has been working with clients with C-PTSD for the past seven years. Together, they will guide you through weekly LIVE "coaching" modules over three months. This will help you to shift your automatic pilot from old scripts to new awareness, creating new paths to recovery for you and your children. 

Both Aurora and Celeste are parents of adult children. Functioning adults. It was hard to be a new parent thirty years ago, with no resources for trauma survivors to NOT BREAK THEIR KIDS. They both had ONE CHILD. It took so much to parent, they both stopped at one. Every day they had they awareness that they had to do better. They had to break the cycle and it took all of their energy.

Childhood Trauma is rampant in the world today, with the CDC estimating 90% of children have some trauma in childhood that can negatively shape their lives and impact their health over their lifetimes. Because childhood trauma doesn’t just affect our minds. It affects the whole person. The CDC, in a study originally released in1989, estimated that traumatic events in childhood (adverse childhood experiences) are responsible for ______________  cases of cancer, heart disease, diabetes, depression, anxiety, addiction and other illnesses. These figures are horrifying but they are only the tip of the iceberg.

Even more concerning are recent scientific studies proving that experiences that WE lived through, CAN actually affect our children by changing their genetics. This is called Intergenerational Trauma. WE have also been subjected to this same effect from our parents and our parents have been affected by it as well through their parents. In fact, in a study done by _______________ on rats in _________ showed that the offspring from rats who had been subjected to a traumatic event showed reaction to the stimulus, even when the event never happened to them. And that that effect continue in the offspring of the babies for 7 generations. We don’t yet know for how many generations these genetic changes persist in humans, but we DO know that they do persist. These changes to our  genetic code is our body’s attempts to keep us safe from danger, but as our society has changed, often the triggers from a past generation have no correlation to our current situations, yet we are still triggered by the same stimulus.

This doesn’t mean that there’s nothing we can do. Quite the contrary. We CAN make a difference in the level of triggering our children are subjected to and we can also teach our kids ways to easily release and move through stress dysregulation so that they can more quickly return to a state of comfort, ease and balance.  

 The awareness of the trauma we’ve lived through and the damage it’s done to us can sometimes feel overwhelming. There is often a feeling of loss and even anger that accompanies the realization of the lack of tools   we come into adulthood with. It makes some people swear they will NEVER have kids. For others, it creates a strong desire to learn and grow so that they can shift the script and be the change that they know needs to happen in the world.

According to The National Council for Mental Wellbeing, 70% of adults have experienced at least one traumatic event in their lives and a woman is beaten every 15 seconds and a forcible rape occurs every 6 minutes. "Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea. While these feelings are normal, some people have difficulty moving on with their lives," according to the American Psychological Association.

Many of us have experienced childhood trauma and are not even aware of it. Outside of physical, sexual and verbal abuse, that one typically associates with child hood trauma, according to Dr. Nicole LePera, childhood trauma is also:

NOT BEING SEEN OR HEARD: Our core human needs are to be seen, heard, + authentically expressed as we are. If we had stressed, overworked, distracted parents (who were deeply struggling themselves) these emotional needs aren’t met. We begin to deny/betray parts of who we actually are in an attempt to get love or approval. As adults this creates a fear of criticism, disconnection from intuition, + confusion around who we actually are.

HAVING A PARENT FIGURE DENY YOUR REALITY: As children, we experience events very differently than adults. When we share our experience with parent figures + they tell us “it wasn’t that bad” or “that didn’t really happen,” we begin to no longer trust ourselves. We start to outsource our reality to people around us. As adults this manifests in relationships where we feel “crazy” or unsure or what’s real.

BEING TOLD DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY YOU CAN’T OR SHOULDN’T EXPERIENCE CERTAIN EMOTIONS: Sounds like— “man up’ “don’t cry” “don’t be dramatic” “stop being so sensitive.” We become conditioned to believe emotions are ‘bad’ + need to be denied to repressed in order to make others comfortable.

HAVING A PARENT FIGURE WHO CAN’T REGULATE THEIR EMOTIONS: looks like— a parent figure who becomes easily overwhelmed + screams, engages in “ghosting” or silent treatment, or uses substances/food/romantic relationships to cope. As children, we need our parent figures to model how to feel ‘big’ emotions. If we don’t get this, we adapt similar coping mechanisms they did.

HAVING A PARENT FIGURE THAT’S FOCUSED ON APPEARANCE: Our parents body image becomes our own internalized body images. The way they speak about their own bodies + our bodies becomes our intently voice. We unconsciously believe our appearance is the way to gain (or lose) love/approval.

HAVING A PARENT FIGURE WHO DOES NOT MODEL BOUNDARIES: we only learn boundaries by witnessing them. If our parent figures didn’t have boundaries or violated our boundaries, we don’t have them as adults. This manifests as relationships where we feel taken advantage, guilty for having our own needs,or resentful. We also don’t understand how to honor others boundaries.

So, how do you know if you are experiencing trauma and possibly unresolved trauma?  Here are some symptoms to look for:

  • Brain fog
  • Feeling scatter brained
  • Insomnia
  • Feeling withdrawn, depressed and/or anxious
  • Low energy and lack of motivation
  • Physical pain: headaches, back pain, neck pain, nausea, etc
  • Feelings of shame, guilt, unworthiness
  • Weakened immune system
  • Anger and/or rage
  • Lack of self care
  • Not wanting to wake up and face the day
  • Sadness and/or grief

Is this program for you? If you are ready to take charge of your emotions, face the pain and move through it, this program is for you. If you want to take your wellness into your own hands, this program is for you. If you are ready to use the pain to transform yourself and your life, this program is for you.

This program is not for you, if you are looking for traditional therapy or western modalities. This is an alternative wellness program, led by trauma informed/ trauma sensitive yoga  teachers and wellness coaches.

When and how will we meet? This program begins August 19th and will be held live on Zoom Thursdays at 1 pm for 10 weeks. All sessions will be recorded for your convenience and will last between 75 and 90 minutes long. This program is limited to 8 participants and will include a 1:1 session with Aurora and Celeste.

 

 

 

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